mastersshujja:

katsdom:

submissive-seeking:

exoticeva:

preyforhissoul:

I want to answer a question I’ve received a bunch of times on and off Tumblr.

“Why do you like to perform oral sex so much?”

In no particular order:

Intimacy: every sex act can be “the most intimate”, but the closeness that I feel with his cock in my mouth is a special kind of intimacy that, at least for me, can’t be replicated with any other form of sexual touch. The feeling of being just that close, where his cock is in the same place as my thoughts and feelings and breath, is emotionally overwhelming. I never feel so intimate with him than when his hard cock is straining against my throat.

I’m beneath him. It’s possible to give oral sex from many different positions, but my favorite is always to be comfortably beneath him. This feels right to me as a submissive woman who believes cock worship and oral sex are acts of surrender and adoration. I love to be in a kneeling position because it shows him that I accept and love my place beneath him.

Generosity: oral sex is a fundamentally generous act because none of us has genital nerves in our mouths. The soul of lovemaking is generosity, of giving everything you are to the one whose pleasure is your greatest reward.

All senses firing: when his cock is on my lips, on my tongue, or working back into my throat, I can smell his maleness, I can taste his essence, I can hear the sounds of my mouth and throat echoing around my head, I can feel with my sensitive tongue and mouth, I can see up close every beautiful element of his richly detailed cock, each vein, the vibrant colors of his arousal, how it glistens, how his velvety soft skin overlays a shaft like iron. We experience our lives, our selves, our bodies with our senses, all of which are located in or around the mouth. Oral sex is a very sensory experience not only for him, but for me.

Focus: everything disappears but his cock, his pleasure, my purpose. I don’t have to try to concentrate. I just do. I slip into another world, where it’s just the two of us, and his cock is the star around which I orbit.

Speechless: I can’t talk with his cock deep in my mouth. I can moan, and I do. I also communicate with my eyes, looking up into his. I let my actions speak for me. He’s heard me talk about how much I respect him, how much I revere him. This is my chance to show him what that means.

Relaxation: when he comes home from work, he’s tired. He wants to relax, to release. He doesn’t want to have to take the lead every time he has sexual urges. He wants to know he can flop down on the couch, cast a quick glance at the floor at his feet, and watch me sink down eagerly, ready to work out all the stress that comes with being a man with responsibility and obligations in the world. He’s home now; he can relax.

Good morning: first thing in the morning, before he’s even awake, I like to snuggle up beside his sleeping cock and welcome him to a new day with love and affection. Wake him gently, letting his cock swell first, and his eyes open second. Oral sex is the perfect way to have sex before work. This way he won’t be worn out and tired before he even gets out of bed; and you’ll have given him a surge of self-confidence for the day ahead, knowing how deeply you respect him.

Gratification: men who haven’t been the recipients of eager, frequent, skilled oral sex – and even those who have been and are – will experience it as tremendously gratifying. It is a whole host of sensations and emotions that he can’t experience any other way. Men whose partners don’t give them oral sex feel it as a loss. I love knowing he will never feel that sense that something is missing.

Lingual stimulation: the tongue is a unique organ, which, in combination with a warm, sucking mouth, can provide such a wide variety of sensations with such precision that no other type of sex can give him such specific pleasure. 

Male focus: fellatio is male-centered. I do it in large part because I want to live the male-centered nature of our relationship. He is the center, and I am at his feet, in service to his pleasure and his will. He knows, when he sees me like this, that I revere his manhood and accept his authority.

Anywhere: I can suck his cock anywhere. I don’t need to be undressed, or to undress him, to do it. I don’t have to be indoors, much less in bed. I can do it under his desk at work, from the passenger seat in the car, kneeling on the balcony floor while he reads the paper, or anywhere else for that matter, as long as we’re alone and together. Oral sex is the most flexible after manual sex.

Huge variety: there are endless variations on oral stimulation. It can be anywhere from violent to gentle, from degrading to triumphant, from sensual to dirty, from messy to neat, from hours long to quick, from frantic to languid, from deeply submissive to empoweringly dominant, from playfully casual to desperately in love.

Control: He decides how much control he needs to have over things. He can lie back and let me care for him; he can watch and guide me with his voice; he can put his hand gently on my cheek or hair; he can encourage me into his rhythm with his hand on my head; he can thrust his hips up into my mouth; he can ball up my hair in his fist and immobilize me; he can pin me down or against a wall and fuck me; and so on. By giving him a choice and allowing him to have control, his pleasure comes from what he himself needs. Never forget that we may think we know “how to please him”, but no woman will ever be in a man’s nervous system. He’s the only one who truly knows how it feels. 

Let him watch: watching me kneeling at his feet, his cock moving in and out of my mouth, my tongue caressing him, is a uniquely gratifying experience for a man. He wants to watch. Sometimes he can’t, because his eyeballs are rolled back in his skull or his brain has switched off all non-essential functions, but he’ll enjoy the view when he can.

Stimulate his balls: oral sex is a great way to pay proper attention to his entire genital area. It’s not just his cock that we suck and lick and kiss. Every part of a man’s body deserves to be adored.

Swallow: I’m a big believer in swallowing a man’s semen. It’s his essence, he made it for you, you elicited it from him with your love and attention, and it is deeply gratifying for men to witness their cum being swallowed. It’s not the only respectful way to receive a man’s seed but it’s one of the most emotionally loaded ones – and many men won’t have experienced it often in their lives. Like most submissive women, I’m grateful for every drop. Oral sex is the act that most naturally culminates in swallowing.

Be proud. Learning to give pleasure with respect and humility is not easy. It can be painful, embarrassing, exhausting, frightening, and intimidating. Practice makes perfect, but until you get to perfect, you have to do a lot of imperfect. It’s a challenge that women can choose to take on. When we do, and succeed, we can and should be proud. That doesn’t mean we lose our humility, but it means we recognize the achievement and celebrate it at every opportunity.

Strengthen the relationship. Oral sex makes him feel wanted, loved, and respected. I know that when I service him this way every day, my relationship will be strong and healthy. He will not be wondering how to fuck other women or complaining to his female friends about bed death. He’ll be smiling to himself and thinking about me.

Up close and personal. It really is the only way to learn about and appreciate the penis fully – what each special spot likes, what his body responds to, how to slow him down, how to get him over the edge, how to drive him out of his mind. Get to know him. The cock exists to connect with his lover, that’s it’s entire purpose. It wants to get to know you. It wants you to fall in love with it. The center of his body wants to be the center of your world. Let it.

I reblogged this back when I was a Tumblr newbie. Super happy it found its way back to my dash. I’ll never be able to explain why I take so much joy in fellatio half as well.

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Ditto!!! 

I will reblog because it is such a superb understanding of what the meaning of oral sex is to the man receiving it.

This is everything.

Every thought or feeling I have ever had about why I love to give oral is laid out so beautifully in this post. 😍😍😍

britishfilth:

That’s a big question.

I think I’d ask you what kind of fear you feel. It can come in all shapes and sizes, and everyone feels it to some degree.

Sometimes fear is our friend; it prompts us to take uncomfortably necessary steps and can even help guide us as we live extraordinarily. Other times, it weighs on us and acts as that internal narrative of judgement and self-doubt.

Truthfully? You don’t get rid of fear. It’s one of our companions as we live life, and to some extent, it’ll always be with us in different forms. So that means our task is to redefine our relationship with it.

Instead of seeing it as an inhibiter, try to picture it as a tool. Use it to help inform decisions and guide choices. Learn to respect it but act in spite of it when you need to. See it, call it for what it is, and if it’s helpful, use it.

Choose not to be it’s victim.

If it’s really bothering you, there is something you can do but it’s not to get rid of fear. It’s to grow courage. It’s to gently nurture that brave badass that exists inside you, just waiting for the encouragement to bloom.

The first step on that road is to reimagine yourself as somebody who DOES THINGS, not somebody to whom things happen. You, as the victim, are dead. That part of you died one second ago, as you read that.

I know it seems cheesy, but… choose that option right now. I’m serious. I’ll say it again, and as you read it, believe it.

The victim in me is dead.

So what now? Everything is the same, except it’s not. Same circumstances, different relationship to them. Fear is there but you won’t let that shit poison your attitude towards yourself and your choices.

There’s no magic formula to life, but half the battle is recognising our demons, understanding their place in our lives (always smaller than they’d have us believe) and stepping into the person we want to be. In that process, fear is inevitable.

But the role it plays can be your choice.

An interesting read.

On a related note about Fear…One of my favourite books of all time is The Gift Of Fear by Gavin deBecker. It was all about how to read those signals your body gives you and trust your intuition. How to spot a sociopath (wish I had read it before I met my first husband) and the techniques they use to coerce.

Having said that there is something exciting to me sexually about fear. Fear makes me wet. Why? Maybe it is the thrill of facing the fear? Of staring it in the face, shaking in my stockings and doing it anyway? Of surrender…not just to Him, but to the fear. Feeling it wash over me and fill my senses.

Whatever way you look at it, there is much to be learned from facing your fear. Feel the fear and do it anyway. You only regret the chances you didn’t take.