instructor144:

Quiet her mind.

the-romantic-dominant:

When it comes to sub drop I tend to point people elsewhere for the simple fact I am not and expert, and in reality, it’s really a physiological occurrence that happens to a person, and I am not a medical professional.

This article is one of the better ones I’ve found.

For those of you wondering what it is, here is an excerpt, written by a submissive woman who is knowledgeable:

So, what the hell is sub drop?

Technically, sub drop is what happens to your body after you’ve drained your brain of all the hormones and chemicals that it releases during the scene or session. Just to remind you, this is a direct quote from that other post: “During the scene, the intense experiences of both pain and pleasure trigger a sympathetic nervous system response, which causes a release of epinephrine from the suprarenal glands, as well as a dump of endorphins and enkephalins. These natural chemicals, part of the fight or flight response, produce the same effect as a morphine-like drug, increasing the pain tolerance of the submissive as the scene becomes more intense.” That super sciencey language boils down to the idea that your body releases a bunch of happy chemicals from your brain during a scene, and it can put you into subspace, which as I described before is glorious.

But, that sounds awesome!

It is! All of those happy chemicals are why we submissives / masochists / painsluts do all the fun BDSM things we do. We get a high from the interaction, the intense intimacy, the flood of fun all-natural drugs… but there’s a teensy eensy problem with it. See, on a normal day your body is dripping those chemicals out at a super low rate, and you may get small dumps during exercise (yay!), but during a scene it can flood you with them and your body/brain can only replace them at the normal rate. There’s no magical way to speed up the creation of all those happy chemicals, and it takes time to rebuild your store of them. If you’ve used a LOT of those chemicals, that’s when sub drop can come in. It’s kind of like all-natural withdrawal from drugs, with all the nasty consequences.

Highly suggest reading up on it from a proper source. 

-TRD

For me it’s always 24-48 hrs later. But i know what to expect and can plan for it now.

dirtylittleslvt:

If you start to lose interest in a girl, PLEASE just MAN UP and tell her.

Fuck yes…this! I can definitely take a hint and tell when thi vs have shifted energy. Nut I have so much more respect for someone just saying it rather than just fading away…