femsubdenial:

vintageinstepford:

Most men think that women are complex creatures.  They complain about women over-analyzing,
running amok, and being too demanding.

But in fact, the opposite is true.  All girls really need in life is 3 things – and they
form an acronym: (B)oundaries, (A)ppreciation, and ( R)outine … or BAR.

If she has Boundaries, which include punishment for
violation, she knows there are limitations on how far she can go before she
harms herself.  These Boundaries give her
a sense of security unlike anything else you can give her.  

Of course, she needs Appreciation – to be used like a slut,
to be cuddled when she cries, to be told she’s a “good girl” when her behavior is
at its best.  Appreciation includes “I love you”s and maintenance spankings.

She requires Routine which includes consistency.  If she’s busy with her Routine, she doesn’t
have time to over-think.  If she doesn’t
have time to over-think, she can’t over-analyze every little situation in her
life, and that’s liberating for her.

Make no mistake, she will consistently test to make sure
these 3 things are still in place.  It’s
not a challenge to your authority, your masculinity, or your dominance; it’s
actually a compliment.  She treats these
little tests like a “ping” signal to see that the BAR is still in place.  She pings because maybe, just maybe, she’s
feeling a little insecure right at that moment and she needs to know the BAR is
still firmly in place and because you’re the only one who can make her feel secure again.  Don’t cower from
the test, delight in it; she’s
pinging you because she believes in you and knows with all her heart that you’ll
return the ping signal with a loving, “it’s okay, babygirl … everything’s under control.”

All your girl has ever wanted is freedom in chains.  Give her that freedom.  

Set the BAR for her.

-VintageInStepford

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