Don’t be sorry! That’s a great question. For us, and for many people who are polyamorous/non-monogamous, being in one committed relationship doesn’t automatically mean that other romantic liaisons are off-limits. We don’t see love and sexual attraction as things that have limits or restrictions. It’s just like with platonic friends–you are able to love and appreciate more than one friend at a time, so why does it have to be different with romantic partners? Just because we are with one person doesn’t mean that we automatically stop finding other people attractive or lovable, and for us, indulging these feelings feels natural, exciting, and just plain fun! The most important thing, as in every area of our relationship, is that we communicate honestly with each other, and check in to make sure both of us are comfortable with what is going on.
Within our relationship, J and I show our love by giving each other the space to develop our sexual fantasies–and seeing each other live them out actually brings us closer together as a couple! The experiences we have had with others have only increased our trust in and love for each other. In the end of the day, we actively *choose* to be with each other, and the presence of other people in our lives does not change that.
For other people, however, the concept of doing anything outside of a committed relationship seems foreign and unnecessary, and that’s ok too! There are many different ways of being with other people romantically, and as long as honesty and open communication are priorities, they’re all awesome!
“I love to fuck my pretty thing, own her desires and make her quiver in pleasure under my control… It is so beautiful hearing her grunt with each thrust underneath the weight of my body, so beautifully primal and addictive. She knows, that I will teach her the real lesson of ownership. A lesson that will be taught with my flesh owning hers. I will guide her body through a pleasurable experience that will be sensually painful and intoxicating to her senses like no other … She is mine because I marked her as my pretty thing with bruises and bite marks and kisses in the end.”
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